Ekziston nj\u00eb problematik\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn prind\u00ebrore, posa\u00e7\u00ebrisht te n\u00ebnat, q\u00eb shpeshher\u00eb vlon brenda tyre, por rrall\u00ebher\u00eb flitet dhe trajtohet. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtja e barr\u00ebs prind\u00ebrore.<\/p>\n
N\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb ton\u00eb na \u00ebsht\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb shum\u00eb her\u00eb q\u00eb n\u00ebna \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo q\u00eb p\u00ebrkujdeset p\u00ebr rritjen e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, n\u00ebna p\u00ebrkujdeset p\u00ebr mir\u00ebmbajtjen e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb, n\u00ebna p\u00ebrkujdeset p\u00ebr rrobat dhe en\u00ebt, n\u00ebna, n\u00ebna, n\u00ebna. Nga ana tjet\u00ebr, pranohet si mjaft normale q\u00eb babai t\u00eb jet\u00eb m\u00eb i shk\u00ebputur emocionalisht nga f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, mos t\u00eb p\u00ebrkujdeset aq shum\u00eb p\u00ebr edukimin e tyre, mos t\u00eb p\u00ebrkujdeset p\u00ebr mir\u00ebmbajtjen e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb; ai punon dhe e sjell buk\u00ebn, kjo, thon\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb detyra e tij. Sigurisht, \u00e7do familje \u00ebsht\u00eb e ndryshme, por e v\u00ebrteta e p\u00ebrgjithshme \u00ebsht\u00eb e till\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Nga kjo pik\u00ebpamje e familjes lind problematika e barr\u00ebs prind\u00ebrore. Pse vall\u00eb duhet t\u00eb merret ve\u00e7 n\u00ebna me rritjen e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve? Pse duhet ve\u00e7 ajo t\u00eb p\u00ebrkujdeset p\u00ebr mir\u00ebmbajtjen e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb? A e justifikon fakti q\u00eb babai punon munges\u00ebn e tij nga p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsit\u00eb e p\u00ebrditshme?<\/p>\n
Ekzistojn\u00eb disa shpjegime p\u00ebr gjendjen e till\u00eb n\u00eb shoq\u00ebrit\u00eb njer\u00ebzore (meq\u00eb kjo gjendje ka ekzistuar pothuajse n\u00eb \u00e7do shoq\u00ebri, ve\u00e7se n\u00eb Per\u00ebndim kjo tashm\u00eb po ndryshon) duke filluar nga fakti q\u00eb n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi burri i familjes, q\u00eb n\u00eb koh\u00ebt parahistorike, ka qen\u00eb ai q\u00eb ka shkuar p\u00ebr gjueti dhe e ka v\u00ebn\u00eb jet\u00ebn n\u00eb rrezik, nd\u00ebrsa gruaja \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrkujdesur p\u00ebr t\u00eb vegj\u00eblit dhe p\u00ebr sht\u00ebpin\u00eb. N\u00ebse kjo mund t\u00eb merret si arsyeja e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb e k\u00ebsaj gjendjeje, gjer diku \u00ebsht\u00eb e kuptueshme. Mir\u00ebpo koh\u00ebrat kan\u00eb ndryshuar. Burri, n\u00eb pjes\u00ebn m\u00eb t\u00eb madhe, nuk b\u00ebn pun\u00eb q\u00eb ia rrezikon jet\u00ebn dhe nuk b\u00ebn pun\u00eb q\u00eb gruaja s\u2019e b\u00ebn dot. Nj\u00eblloj, rastet e \u201cet\u00ebrve t\u00eb mir\u00eb\u201d q\u00eb shum\u00eb her\u00eb i shohim n\u00eb rrjetet sociale, por edhe n\u00eb p\u00ebrditshm\u00ebri, na \u00e7ojn\u00eb t\u00eb kuptojm\u00eb q\u00eb p\u00ebrkujdesja p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt dhe b\u00ebrja e pun\u00ebve familjare nuk jan\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi q\u00eb burrat nuk i b\u00ebjn\u00eb dot. Megjithat\u00eb, barra prind\u00ebrore ende s\u2019ka ndryshuar. Ende arsyetohet mungesa e babait n\u00eb jet\u00ebn familjare si nj\u00eb sakrific\u00eb e nevojshme p\u00ebr mbijetes\u00ebn e familjes; ende shum\u00eb grave i mohohet e drejta p\u00ebr t\u00eb punuar e madje edhe p\u00ebr t’u edukuar meq\u00eb \u201cpun\u00ebn e kan\u00eb n\u00eb kuzhin\u00eb,\u201d ose meq\u00eb \u201cduhet ta pastroj\u00eb rr\u00ebnj\u00ebsisht sht\u00ebpin\u00eb p\u00ebrdit\u00eb,\u201d ose meq\u00eb \u201c\u00ebsht\u00eb turp t\u00eb punoj\u00eb me burra e me njer\u00ebz t\u00eb tjer\u00eb.\u201d Nga e gjith\u00eb kjo situat\u00eb, sikur t\u00eb mos mjaftonin barrat e n\u00ebnave, atyre u shtohet edhe nj\u00eb barr\u00eb tjet\u00ebr, ndoshta m\u00eb e r\u00ebnda, ajo e shoq\u00ebris\u00eb; e nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebrie q\u00eb fatkeq\u00ebsisht shum\u00eb her\u00eb e l\u00eb t\u00eb paralizuar at\u00eb grua ambicioze q\u00eb do t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb di\u00e7ka m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebr jet\u00ebn e saj.<\/p>\n
Dhe pse i them barr\u00eb dhe jo p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi? I them ashtu sepse kur nj\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi q\u00eb dikush e merr p\u00ebrsip\u00ebr me d\u00ebshir\u00eb dhe k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi (si\u00e7 mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb rritja dhe edukimi i f\u00ebmij\u00ebs p\u00ebr nj\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb) b\u00ebhet kurth p\u00ebr t\u2019i ngujuar \u00ebnd\u00ebrrat e nj\u00eb gruaje n\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb jen\u00eb nxitje p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrparuar, at\u00ebher\u00eb ajo p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi b\u00ebhet barr\u00eb. Dhe ju ftoj ta ktheni shikimin pak edhe te familja juaj, te familja e t\u00eb af\u00ebrm\u00ebve tuaj. Mos e vazhdoni artikullin p\u00ebr ca \u00e7aste dhe mendoni: Sa \u00ebndrra dhe shpresa t\u00eb shuara shihni te n\u00ebna juaj?<\/p>\n
Jam i sigurt q\u00eb nuk ka n\u00ebn\u00eb q\u00eb s\u2019do t\u00eb jepte gjith\u00e7ka p\u00ebr ta dh\u00ebn\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebn p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e vet, pavar\u00ebsisht sakrificave t\u00eb shumta q\u00eb mund t\u00eb duhet t\u2019i b\u00ebj\u00eb. Dhe jam i sigurt q\u00eb nuk ka n\u00ebn\u00eb q\u00eb s\u2019do t\u00eb t\u00eb jepte nj\u00eb buz\u00ebqeshje pavar\u00ebsisht v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsive q\u00eb mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb duke i kaluar. Por kjo s\u2019do t\u00eb thot\u00eb q\u00eb gj\u00ebrat jan\u00eb n\u00eb rregull. Jo, jo, aspak! Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb rregull q\u00eb t\u00eb lejohet q\u00eb dashuria e n\u00ebn\u00ebs t\u00eb b\u00ebhet barr\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb. Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb rregull q\u00eb sht\u00ebpia, foleja e \u00e7do familjeje, t\u00eb b\u00ebhet barr\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb. \u00c7do njeri i cili sadopak e ka aft\u00ebsin\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019i kuptuar k\u00ebto \u00e7\u00ebshtje duhet t\u00eb punoj\u00eb q\u00eb ta leht\u00ebsoj\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb barr\u00eb, duke filluar nga n\u00ebnat e tyre e pastaj duke vazhduar te grat\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00ebr\u00ebsi. Duhet t\u00eb k\u00ebrkohet p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi edhe prej et\u00ebrve, duhet t\u00eb k\u00ebrkohet p\u00ebrkujdes prej tyre si me f\u00ebmij\u00eb, ashtu edhe me sht\u00ebpin\u00eb. Sht\u00ebpia dhe familja k\u00ebrkon bashkim, k\u00ebrkon interes si nga gruaja, nj\u00eblloj edhe nga burri. K\u00ebrkon p\u00ebrkushtim t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00eb dhe sakrifica t\u00eb nj\u00ebjta. Kan\u00eb kaluar koh\u00ebrat parahistorike, burri mund t\u00eb punoj\u00eb, por nj\u00eblloj mund t\u00eb punoj\u00eb edhe gruaja; gruaja p\u00ebrkujdeset p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, por nj\u00eblloj edhe burri e ka mund\u00ebsin\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrkujdeset p\u00ebr ta; duhet t\u00eb k\u00ebrkohet llogari e nj\u00ebjt\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb familja t\u00eb jet\u00eb e sh\u00ebndetshme dhe e drejt\u00eb, p\u00ebr babain dhe n\u00ebn\u00ebn time dhe t\u00ebnden.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Ekziston nj\u00eb problematik\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn prind\u00ebrore, posa\u00e7\u00ebrisht te n\u00ebnat, q\u00eb shpeshher\u00eb vlon brenda tyre, por rrall\u00ebher\u00eb flitet dhe trajtohet. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtja e barr\u00ebs prind\u00ebrore. N\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb ton\u00eb na \u00ebsht\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb shum\u00eb her\u00eb q\u00eb n\u00ebna \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo q\u00eb p\u00ebrkujdeset p\u00ebr rritjen e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, n\u00ebna p\u00ebrkujdeset p\u00ebr mir\u00ebmbajtjen e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb, n\u00ebna p\u00ebrkujdeset p\u00ebr rrobat dhe en\u00ebt, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":18,"featured_media":10359,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[8],"tags":[37,35,133],"class_list":["post-10358","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-seen","tag-diskriminim","tag-role-gjinore","tag-seen"],"yoast_head":"\n